Tips for making your family comfortable and happy when moving into a new home.
Moving is not fun! It’s not fun for adults, and for most children can be a scary proposition. But there are strategies to employ that will make your next move easier and less stressful on your entire family.
[ico type=”icon-group”] Make It A Family Decision
Children can often feel like they don’t have a voice in big decisions like moving.
The likely reason is…well they don’t.
How many times have you heard of a child asking their parents to move to a new home, and against their will the parents packed up everything and moved across town? People usually move because of a promotion, moving closer to work, or getting a bigger home.
These are all adult reasons and typically do not involve children.
So how do you get your children involved in a decision that is not theirs?
- Let them help you find your new home. Time permitting of course, take them with you when you go look at homes. Or if you are searching online, have them search with you and bookmark their favorites.
- Have them create their own “Wish List”. Giving your children the opportunity to give their input into what they want in their new home will involve them in the decision and will pay big time when they show up to their new home and find they got the big back yard or pink room they asked for.
- Let them choose the color of their room. Take them to the paint store and have them pick out several color swatches of their favorite colors. This will give them a sense of control over the situation and reduce the stress once they move into their new room.
You’re moving as a family, so it is important to always let the little ones know their ideas and input is acknowledged!
[ico type=”icon-thumbs-up”] Make The Move Positive
Kids have a different view of moving and may have a hard time letting go.
You have to realize that 5 years, which is typically how long people stay in their homes, could be the entire life of a child or at least as long as they remember. Everything they know is in that home and they are very attached to it. So making sure they know the move is positive is vitally important in making sure they don’t get anxious and stressed leaving their life behind.
Here are a few things you can do to get your kids excited about the move.
- Throw a party. Invite all their friends and neighbors for a moving party. This shows the children that the move is something to celebrate. Take lots of pictures.
- Make a Memory Book of all their friends. Take the pictures from the party and create a memory book with them with pictures and contact information for all their friends so they can keep in touch.
- Pack a “New Home Fun Kit”. Get the kids together and have them put all their favorite games, toys, snacks, and valuables in a box. Pack the box last and let it be the first one in the house. That way they won’t have to search for all their favorite things when they get there and they can take a break from unpacking and play a game.
- Read them books. There are a lot of good books you can read to your children to help them feel comfortable and positive about the pending move. Some of them include:
– Alexander, Who’s Not (Do You Hear Me? I Mean It!) Going to Move by Judith Viorst Find Here
– The Berenstain Bears’ Moving Day by Stan Berenstain Find Here
– The Moving Book: A Kids’ Survival Guide by Gabriel Davis Find Here
– Moving House by Anne Civardi Find Here
[ico type=”icon-smile”] Make Sure They Feel Comfortable In Their New Home
Once you bid voyage to your old digs and arrive at your new home, there are a few things you can do to help your kids settle. Remember, your kids just abandoned their entire lives; friends, classmates, their fish buried in the back yard. It will take a bit of work to get them comfortable.
Here are some things you can do to reduce the emotional burden moving can have on your children.
- Unpack their room(s) first. This will show them how important they are in the hustle and bustle of moving. Give them a place to take a rest. And also gives them a head start on making their room just the way they want it.
- Buy new sheets and bed spreads. They left all their old things behind. This is a great way to give them a fresh start and make their new room special.
- Involve them in school activities. The best way for you to get your kid(s) feeling comfortable with their new surroundings is by creating relationships. By involving them in as many school activities as possible gives them, and you, ample opportunities to make new friends. Friends are going to be the most important tool in your bag for getting your kids settled.
- Throw a housewarming party. Invite all the children in the neighborhood for a small daytime party to meet and play. Another great way to get your kids involved in the neighborhood.
Moving can be very stressful. Follow these tips and make the move easier on you and your family!